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COUPLES THERAPY IN LOS ANGELES AND PASADENA

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We help couples find healthy emotional patterns

Here it goes again, the familiar argument. It may start with something small, then quickly explodes into a heated battle. You both struggle, both feel alone, then fall into silence again. This is a difficult pattern many couples experience, and we understand how much it can hurt.

We provide couples therapy in Los Angeles and Pasadena.

We provide couples therapy to help couples move from isolation to connection, from arguments to resolution, and from unhappiness to security. Destructive emotional patterns can pull you farther and father apart, and it’s sometimes too much to bear. We can help. Let’s help you find deeper connection together.

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Create Clear Communication

Relationship patterns can keep you locked in the same cycle. Learn new ways to communicate together and find common ground.

End Constant Fights

Fighting happens when we miss each other’s needs for attachment. Get to the core issue and resolve endless fights.

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Whether it’s an affair, pervasive coldness, or addictive behavior, a therapist can help you find the way forward out of the darkness.

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We’re in the Biltmore Offices located on 520 S. Grand Avenue, Suite 671. Parking can be found in Pershing Square or the LA Public Library.

Our Pasadena Office is located at 595 E Colorado Blvd. Suite 412. Parking can be found on the street.

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