The bad apology: We’ve all heard one. We’ve all used one. And when we do it feels so gross. “God, I’m SORRY!”“I don’t know what I did but whatever it is I apologize.”“I guess I’m sorry that you think I wasn’t listening.”“Look, I said I’m sorry. Why’re you still angry? No. It doesn’t work. It doesn’t help. Actually, a bad
Living in a new country as a refugee or trying to change your immigration status can be very stressful. Maybe you are worried that a family member will face deportation. No matter the situation, you want to do everything in your power to ensure that you or your loved one will be able to legally stay in the United States. How
I get it. It always feels easier to ignore the thing that’s bothering you in your relationships – whether that be with your friend, coworker, boss, family member, or partner. You hope that the comment that rubbed you the wrong way or the awkward moment of tension will just pass and be a thing of the past. You hope that
Sometimes focusing our attention feels impossible. As soon as we settle down at the computer, or into a conversation, we can find ourselves darting around, proverbially switching channels back and forth. We can start to wonder, “Do I have ADHD?” Today we’re going to look at what actually happens in the brain when we have trouble focusing. Whether or not
Anxiety is that pesky companion that wants to rob you of your control in life. It hijacks your thoughts during important moments. It tenses your shoulders, your chest, and your digestive system. It over activates your “what if” fears. It can affect your sleep, diet, and ability to stay present and attentive to life. You want to take a deep
Choosing a potential therapist is a big deal, and the significance can make the decision feel overwhelming. This article and the accompanying worksheet will help you think through important factors when deciding on a therapist. Many therapists (including our therapists at Here) offer 10 or 15-minute consultations to ask questions and see if a therapist is the right fit for
Do you ever have one of those nights – where you find yourself tossing and turning, your mind filled with thoughts and worries, “what ifs,” and feelings of uncertainty or fear? Sometimes these same feelings and thoughts pop up throughout the day, with a sudden sense of your mind racing, your heart rate speeding up, and breathing getting shallow. Suddenly,
Do you struggle with building boundaries? Have you paid attention to the patterns you hold in your relationships? Do you find yourself setting no boundaries with potential friends but you swear them out of your life when they cross an invisible line? Do you feel like you have your guard up all the time and never let anyone in despite
It can feel impossible to get ahead of what Depression tries to take from your life. You find it hard to do the things you once loved. You wonder if your energy and drive will ever return. Your relationship with food, sleep, sex, and motivation no longer makes any sense. You want to regain control of the peace you once
It can feel difficult to know how much of ‘their own space’ to give your teenager while still knowing that you need to be their parent. Learning to change a few of the things you are doing may help your teenager feel more heard and understood and bring a deeper connection that you’ll both benefit from in your relationship. Adolescent